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The Joy of Adoption



Adoption is a decision that many people do not make lightly. It is a very personal decision for prospective parents to make. It isn’t easy to identify one reason why people adopt either because every family is different and every family has different reasons (personal to them) as to why they choose to go down the adoption route.


What is Adoption?


Adoption is giving a baby you have decided to no longer keep to new parents to bring the child up as their own.


When you give the child to the new parents it means you will give birth to the baby but you won’t raise them or have any legal rights or responsibility to the child when the adoption process is complete.


In order to do this successfully the adoptive parents have to be committed to the child and even though they might not be their biological mother or father they are considered to be that child’s parent once the legal rights and responsibilities have been transferred. Once this process is complete they are expected to love, cherish and provide the child with the best care to help them thrive.


For example, If you are a two parent family ensure you discuss it with each other before making a decision. And if you are single and thinking of adopting please talk to a trusted friend or family member, think about the pros and the cons and how it will impact your life in the future.


If you are a pregnant woman considering all your options: parenting, abortion or Adoption it may be likely that you are unsure of the reasons why people choose to adopt or why adoption is a good option for your baby over parenting and abortion.


Knowing these reasons can help birth mothers and prospective adoptive parents understand more about the people who adopt, and it can help a birth mother choose who she would like to adopt her child.


Why do people choose to Adopt?


People choose to adopt for various reasons it could be;


  • Due to infertility

  • Medical conditions that make it dangerous to carry a pregnancy

  • Concerns about passing on genetic disorders or diseases

  • Single parent and want to start a family

  • They want to give a child a loving home

  • They want to help pregnant women continue to pursue their life goals

  • They want to give a child born in another country a chance to thrive

  • They want to give a child without a permanent family a home

  • They want to help friend or family member who isn’t in a position to raise a child


These are just some of the many reasons people choose to adopt a child.


If you are pregnant and don’t know what to do, and you are leaning more towards choosing abortion, maybe some of the reasons listed as to why people choose adoption might encourage you to give a family who cannot have their own child or may just want to give a child a loving home a chance to be a parent.


Although it may be difficult for you to give up your child to someone else, at least this way the child gets a chance to live a full life.


As you can see from the list there are many benefits to this option for the prospective parents: from the feeling of fulfilment, being able to provide for a child in need; to the joy of becoming a parent and being able to build a family and create new opportunities and memories.


Let's Empower Women to Choose Adoption as an Option.

However for the birth parents we understand this decision could be very painful as it would require the birth mother to have to carry her baby to full-term, and it may be difficult to detach emotionally from the child she is carrying.


If this relates to you, you may feel that you are incapable of parenting your child yourself and currently deciding between abortion and adoption.


Perhaps you are considering abortion and are thinking it might be easier because this way as you wouldn’t be wondering about your child and what they may grow up to be like.


Perhaps even the thought of giving your baby to be raised by someone else is too unbearable to think about and just knowing that child is alive and well can have an impact on you and your family in the long-run.



What are my options?


All hope is not lost though! and there is a way around this, it is called Open Adoption.


Let me tell you a bit about Open Adoption.


Open Adoption is the route you can choose if you have decided to give your child up for adoption but decide you still want to be able to have some form of contact with your child while they are growing up.


This option is beneficial as the child will know who their biological parents and family are and when they are older they can decide if they want to keep contact.


The good thing is the amount and type of contact would be worked out between you and the adoptive parents.


To anyone who does decide to adopt, I advise you to consider it seriously and do your research.


Please note the process for adoption can be different for each parent and family we are not going to go into the details about the process but we have left some links below which provide more information on adoption.


Whatever option you choose as pro-lifers we are always going to advocate for the option to ‘choose life’


Many women who find themselves in a crisis pregnancy often decide to go with one of the other two options ‘parenting’ or ‘abortion’


Even though this is the case, we personally want to empower women to consider Adoption too as an option to give their child a chance if parenting may be too much of a challenge…


We want to make it clear once you choose abortion there is no going back that child’s life has gone for good and unfortunately the regret and emotional trauma from the abortion can last for years if it is not recognised.


Having said all this, we are aware that many women see giving up their babies as more emotionally painful than terminating their pregnancies and there is even a stigma attached to giving up your child for adoption.


I guess in some ways abortion makes women feel like having an abortion can erase the pain and they can move on with their lives more easily.


But those of us who have come into contact with post-abortive women know that this isn’t the case; and sadly these women have been left with the emotional impact from abortion and that initial sense of relief leaves women with years of grief.


I just want to end this blog by saying adoption is a wonderful gift of life, and there are many loving families out there who are so eager to adopt a precious little life and love them as their own for a lifetime.

I hope this blog has made you think positively about Adoption and I hope it helps you to better understand the sacrifices a mother and adoptive parents make to ensure a child is loved and cared for.


Let's Empower Women To Choose Adoption As An Option!


Love & Blessings

Choose Life Ministries


Sources:

This particular website explains each step of the adoption process in detail for the UK and gives you an idea of the length of time each process takes and you can search their website to find an adoption agency near you.


This website has adoption FAQ’s answering many asked questions of potential adopters.


There is obviously oversees adoption too this would be more complicated and take longer than a domestic adoption in the UK. Also each country has it’s own rules about adoption and international adoption. On average it can take anywhere between two and a half and three years. This link will give more info on international adoption.


Please note:

There are different rules around adoption in different countries across the world so if you are interested in learning more on adoption then please check out google to search for adoption organisations in your nation.

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